What is Coaching?
Defined on the google machine as my mum would say;
‘Put simply, coaching is a process that aims to improve performance and focuses on the 'here and now rather than on the distant past or future. ... Coaching is unlocking a person's potential to maximise their own performance. It is helping them to learn rather than teaching them.’
I have been working in the Fitness Industry for just about 20years and it wasn’t until about 7years ago l learnt that l didn’t have to solve everyone’s problems. It wasn’t on me that a client wasn’t eating enough fruit, or wasn’t moving enough or not turning up to sessions. It was in fact on the client.
‘It is helping them to learn rather than teaching them.’ This is by far my favorite part of the definition of Coaching, helping the client learn.
We all learn in different ways, we all use and understand different languages. Explaining how to squat to one client is different from the next. Using different ques, showing the client in a different way.
There is no one-size-fits-all.
As a Coach, my job is to help my client learn. Not tell them what to do.
Also, a huge part of my job is keeping my client safe.
If a client walks in and tells me that they drink 3 naughty soft drink cans a day. The conversation would go;
‘How do you feel about that?’
‘Oh, l would like to change it!’
‘How does changing your intake of the cans look like to you?’
‘Well, l know l should stop but l like drinking them.’
‘Ok, what time of the day you like drinking them the most?’
‘How do you feel about cutting back to 2 a day? Do you think your body will feel better, and you will start to sleep better?’
‘Yeah, l can do 2 a day.’
The goal here for client was not to tell them how bad the can of drink is for them, they already know the answer to that. What l was aiming to do was to help steer the client in the right direction to make the change for themselves and not to make someone else happy.
The client needs to put the value of importance on their own goal not have someone else driving the need to.
It was a huge step for the client to cut back on the intake, we always celebrate these steps, take the win and move forward. The concepts are the same with the clients’ CHPT work no matter what the goal is.
Just because l can see the end goal, and know how to get there, doesn’t mean that the client is ready. The client knows the end goal and will know when the time is right for them to move forward. Pressuring someone, or yelling at them, or even telling them what to do will only push them away from the goal.
There is always rain before the rainbow appears, being a coach means to be there to support no matter what happens, listening judgment-free to no matter what happens throughout the week.
Let’s not forget the most important part, having some fun along the way!